100 Things to Do Instead of Texting Him

You had a fun night together and you haven’t heard from him. You took an everything shower to pass time and still… nothing. Hours, days are going by, and you simply refuse to send that first text.

In some cases, it’s OK to reach out first (if we’re talking about your long-term relationship here).

For the rest of you, when that urge to text him hits, here’s what you should do.

How to Stop Yourself From Texting Him – 100 Ways to Ground Yaself

Take care of your basic hygiene.

Sometimes you’re feeling a little crusty, whether you realize it or not, and you just need a little TLC to get your ego back up.

Do some fun self-care.

This can be a hot shower, a face mask, or watching your comfort show. Do whatever makes you feel extra warm and cared for.

Paint your nails.

You can’t text him if you have paint drying. If you try, you’ll smudge.

Spend time with a pet.

Why would you need a man when you have an animal who loves you unconditionally?

Complain to someone you trust.

Nobody understands the way men disappoint like other women.

Do something sexy for yourself.

Put on a hot outfit and some sexy, ambient music. Dance around half-naked. Put on dark lipstick. Femme fatales don’t text men first.

Doom-scroll.

I’m not one to normally suggest this, but if it’ll keep you distracted, go for it.

Watch Mac Miller’s Tiny Desk Concert.

I have nothing more for this one—it’s just so good.

Watch a YouTube video of your favorite artist performing live.

Bonus points if it’s old or at a cool music festival. This should occupy at least an hour.

Masturbate.

Once you get the longing feelings out, you probably will want to text him less. Just make sure you don’t think about him. Unless you want to manifest him…

Exercise or go for a walk.

When you’re busy moving your body, you can’t type. Once you’re done, you’ll feel like you’re better than him anyway.

Talk to a different guy.

Don’t do this if you’re in a relationship. But if you are, then this list doesn’t belong to you. This is for my situationship, talking stage, my-guy-won’t-commit girlies who want some loving.

Meditate.

Put on some subliminals on YouTube to live your dream life. It sounds cool and they work.

Do some yoga.

It’ll calm you down and you’ll feel extra flexxxxible.

Try on everything in your closet.

Tap into your inner child with a fashion show. Put on Y2K music. Donate what you don’t want to keep.

Practice your winged eyeliner.

You have to get good somehow.

Go out!

Go for a drive, hang out with a friend, go shopping if you can afford it, go somewhere pretty. It’s a distraction that is super good for you.

Treat yourself to something yummy.

A fun iced coffee, an ice cream, or a whole pizza. Who gaf. Life is hard already—don’t make it harder by pining over some guy who can’t even text you.

Ask yourself why you want him to text you.

Attention? You have plans with him? You’re into him? You want him to validate you? Whatever the reason is, be nice to yourself. Then, try to figure out why you want it so bad. I promise you—you don’t want a guy who can go so long without talking to you. He should obsess over you!

Journal.

This goes with the above but you can write about truly anything.

Watch an early-2000s movie.

I recommend Bride Wars or How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days. They’re the best ones. Or pick whatever one is your favorite.

Watch a bad Christmas Hallmark/Lifetime movie.

Even if it isn’t Christmastime—these are so wonderfully terrible they will make you forget all about short dick Dylan.

Figure out what you’re going to wear to work/school tomorrow.

Two birds, one stone.

Get some work done.

Also two birds, one stone.

Call your mom.

She gets how shitty men are, too.

Call your dad.

If you have a good relationship with him. If you don’t, don’t call him. But sometimes it’s good to talk to a man who actually is a good one.

Buy yourself flowers.

This isn’t an ode to the Miley Cyrus song, it’s just nice to do nice things for yourself.

Go on Pinterest.

No shame in looking at engagement rings. Not for you and this lame, but for you and the man who actually deserves to love you. Or, look at home decor stuff.

Read a book.

You call it old fashioned, but it makes you extra smarty. Unless you read something stupid. Then it won’t. But it’s still fun.

Clean out your closet.

Make room for your next purchases!

Bake some cookies or a fun dessert.

You deserve the sweet treat.

Make a vision board.

Think about how you want this year or next month to look. Or make a vision board for your dream life. The manifesting power of visualization, baby!

Plan your next trip.

Even if you don’t have the funds right now. Where do you want to go? What would you wear? What things do you want to see or experience? Daydream a little.

Make some tea.

Everything is better with some green or herbal tea.

Get into a creative hobby.

The more you do things for yourself, the more attractive you are. Pick up something creative: writing, drawing, dancing, singing, knitting, designing clothes. Try out different things.

Do one thing that will make you feel productive.

Dishes in the sink? Tables need to be cleaned? Soap dispenser refilled? Do something that will make you feel like you are getting sh*t done.

Hang out with a friend.

Tell them about all your problems. Listen to all of theirs. Circle of life.

Listen to your favorite album.

Headphones on. No exceptions.

Discover new music.

This could be albums from your favorite artist that you’ve never heard, or it could be your dad’s favorite band. Expose yourself to new stuff.

Listen to your Spotify Wrapped.

Reminisce on who you were last year.

Organize your desk.

It’ll make you feel good. Promise.

Watch Desperate Housewives, Gilmore Girls, Sex and the City, or Gossip Girl.

Guaranteed mood boosting shows.

Cook!

Try a new recipe or make an old favorite.

Take a drive.

Windows down, favorite music blasting. Go somewhere pretty or new.

De-clutter a drawer.

Just one drawer. Start there.

Hand-wash your bras.

You never do it. I know you don’t.

Keep your hands busy.

This works with anything—cleaning, exercising, masturbating.

Clean your house.

Ooooo sparkly, yay. I bet this guy never cleans.

Take hot photos of yourself.

It’s a good reminder of how great you are. Revisit the pictures whenever you doubt it.

Put some old clothes up on Depop.

Make some money if you’re going to pass the time.

Figure out how you can make money.

Outside of Depop, what are some other passive income streams you can pick up?

Teach yourself a new skill.

Take a course or watch YouTube videos.

Text a bunch of other people.

The more people you text, the more your thread with him disappears.

Try new hairstyles.

Fun little ponies and buns.

Learn how to French braid.

I still have no idea.

Write.

Put down your feelings on paper or write something you think will help people. Like my silly little blog.

Play with a pet.

Instant serotonin.

Research WTF artificial intelligence really is.

It’s super scary, actually. And I still feel like I don’t fully understand it.

Watch an old movie.

Don’t watch 2001: A Space Odyssey if you just researched AI. Extra scary.

Watch a scary movie.

If you’re mad at him, this actually helps. Or you can listen to metal music.

Go price shopping for that thing you’ve been wanting.

If not for any reason than to put it on your Christmas list.

Watch makeup tutorials.

When you get really good at eyeliner designs, please teach me.

Reorganize your furniture.

Feng shui your life.

Go to sleep.

Sometimes you just need to pass out to quit the overthinking.

Schedule your doctor appointments.

We love a productive queen.

Read the news.

The world is way scarier than the loser not texting you.

Volunteer.

Feel good, yaaaay.

Update your resume.

Even if you don’t want to leave your job right now.

Call your grandparents.

Mine are dead so do it for me. 🫶

Buy that thing that’s been sitting in your Amazon cart.

You know you wanna. Stop putting it off.

Shave your legs or coochie.

Or wax, or whatever. You’ll feel hot after.

Write out your own list of ways to distract yourself.

No list is better than your own list.

Watch a stupid sitcom like Friends or Seinfeld.

Time passes quickly. Or slowly. Depending who I’m talking to.

Blowout your hair.

I feel like a new woman whenever I do my hair.

Go to the grocery store.

My happy place.

Go through your old jewelry.

You might find things you forgot about.

Do everything with music on.

This is my general advice in general for generally all activities, generally.

Watch an Adam Sandler movie.

Billy Madison >

Hit up an old friend or college professor.

You never know who wants to hear from you. What’s the worst that can happen? They don’t respond? Who cares.

Clean out your sock drawer.

Anything with holes in it, GOES. A la poubelle.

Listen to SheraSeven.

She’ll get you right. Mhmmmmm.

Sexy dance in the mirror.

This always works for me.

Make a fun drink.

21+, obviously. If it’s a weekday, try to just have one. Max two. No more than three.

Log into your Duolingo account and do a lesson.

If you’re like me, you picked up French and put it down a loooong time ago.

Write down your goals.

This could be for tomorrow, this month, this year, or a 5-year plan. It’s good to get clear on what you want.

Break those goals down into small, numbered steps.

What can you do right now to get closer to your dream life?

Make a gratitude list.

Write down everything you’re thankful for in your life. This is guaranteed to lift your spirits and remind you to stay away from dusties.

Put on lingerie.

Take pics in it, dance in it, fantasize in it, visualize your dream life in it. Do something that makes you feel sexy.

Take care of your cuticles.

This is the year of long, healthy nails.

Read up on your special interest.

True crime? Astrology? Psychology? Cars? Fashion? Pick something you love and check out what’s new.

Learn your birth chart.

Learn about your placements. Read your horoscopes for the day, week, month, and year. Learn about the houses and degrees. No idea what I’m talking about? All the more reason you should get into it! Immerse yourself in the mystical.

If it’s nighttime, go stargaze.

My favorite thing to do.

Plan an outing with your best friend or mom.

Be girls together.

Say your affirmations.

I repel dusties. I am always moving on. I deserve the best man in the universe. I deserve everything I want. The men I want love to talk to me. I’m not waiting on someone’s son to text me. 🤭😝

(Keep in mind, affirmations should always be positive, not negative. We use “I am” or “I deserve” statements, etc., never “I don’t,” “I’m not,” etc.)

Drink water.

When you’re dehydrated, you attract dusties.

Moisturize your whole body.

Slippery fingers can’t text.

Do a hand mask.

Same as the above.

Ask ChatGPT random stupid shit.

Figure out your life plan or learn about aliens. Idc.

Most importantly, BE KIND TO YOURSELF.

It’s OK to want someone’s son to text you. It’s OK to be upset that they aren’t. It’s OK to manically distract yourself and still feel upset. You are a LOVER GIRL, duh.

Make space for your feelings, process what has you so upset (beyond just the obvious). What are your narratives and beliefs that are being fed by him not texting you? That you’re not good enough? Lovable? Get down to the silly stuff that is illuminated in your subconscious mind. These things aren’t true, and you know it. So, why are you allowing that belief to persist?

It’s OK to be upset—you’re human—but put yourself first and take care of yourself, please. You are the love, so give it to yourself—not him.

The right man will talk to you so much, you’ll have no reason to ever visit this list again.